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"Choice: It’s almost a dirty word for
Millennials. While growing up, we are told that we can do anything we
want. We can be whatever we want to be. First female president, a rocket
scientist, a heart surgeon or a Hollywood star. From the age of 4, you
can enroll in any type of after school activity to start living your
dream.
But more often than not, these choices make us confused. We want to
do everything. We want to become famous, rich, have a good education,
have fun, be a top athlete and, in the end, we have no actual idea what
we really want. We have no idea what makes us really happy. So many of
us get stuck in looking for our passion and looking for our purpose in
life.
It can suffocate us. Sometimes we find ourselves longing for the time
our parents or grandparents grew up in. Your life was pretty much
predetermined by social and financial boundaries.
We drop out of college because that path we took wasn’t all what we
thought it would be. We want to travel and see the world, only to get
back to college. We switch careers, jobs, hobbies, sports and the places
we want to live. There are just too many choices, they all look great,
but in the end, they don’t feel quite right when we make them.
So we end up wandering, waiting and longing to find a meaning.
Looking for our passion everywhere. But the truth is, you don’t need to
look anywhere. You just need to live. You know what you like to do and
you know what you don’t like to do.
Dreams change. When I look around at the lives of people I have known
quite some time, it surprised me to see that their lives changed when
they changed partners.
All of a sudden, people are interested in things they never were, and
doing stuff they have never done before. I was even more surprised to
come to the conclusion I am doing the exact same thing! I thought that
this was a bad thing. I was wondering why I got so caught up in the
lives of my boyfriends, forfeiting a life of my own.
But then I realized that dreams change, people change and doing
different things isn’t bad at all. Of course, you should never give up
the things you love doing for someone else, but there’s a lot of stuff
out there that is a lot of fun to do. Your life doesn’t have to consist
of doing one sport on the highest level, or making your hobby your
career.
It’s okay to suck at surfing and salsa, to not know anything about
art, but to still have a great time at the beach, at salsa classes and
in a museum with paintings you know nothing about. If you like it, just
do it.
If you know what you want, great! Go for it. Work hard to reach your
goals and your dreams. If you’re still looking, and have no clue, stop
looking.
Because you can choose all you want, you don’t have that much say in
it in the end anyways. You might work hard all your life to become a
top-notch lawyer. And then you have an accident and can’t practice law
anymore. Or you get sick and need to stop working all together. Life
sometimes just gets in the way.
You have to be flexible about your dreams and goals. Things change,
people change, dreams change and that’s a good thing. If you learn how
to embrace life as it comes, love doing a lot of things and don’t get
sour when something doesn’t work out, you will always have joy.
Don’t get caught up in making choices, choose them all. Don’t be
scared by people who live and breathe one thing and make you feel bad
about your skills or knowledge about something. Don’t sit on the couch
and look at TED-clips that inspire you and expect to one day choose
something. Go out there, do what you want to do and have fun. Make life
your passion and not your life about finding your passion."
[Robinn Van Der Vegt]
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